Solace from a Stranger
March 30th, 2011
I’ll readily admit that I’m hooked on Facebook. And that I spend a hefty chunk of time cruising various mommy blogs and forums that I enjoy. But let me just say that there are serious benefits to be reaped from the increasingly-connected digital world in which we operate daily.
When I got home from the disastrous doctor’s appointment on Monday night, I immediately flew to my computer and started typing. “Help! Pediatrician Showdown” — I posted to a breastfeeding forum I frequent, outlining some of the more dubious advice I’d been given.
“Help! Pediatrician Recommendation Needed” — I emailed to several of my “crunchiest” friends. I repeated this plea to the organizer of a local Attachment Parenting group I’d heard of, but never before connected with. I Googled the nearest La Leche league and sent emails to several contacts listed on the site, seeking reassurance and advice. And I posted a grumpy Facebook status about my experience.
Within an hour, the responses were pouring in.
By the next morning, I had 41 replies to my breastfeeding post, five emails with recommendations and advice, and a slew of comforting messages on my Facebook account. My breastfeeding forum cyber-friends answered with one affronted voice — “Your doctor is a moron. Find a new one.” The AP and La Leche mommas sent recommendations for good pediatricians (including the one we ended up going to for a second opinion) and a million links to online breastfeeding resources. And my Facebook friends bolstered my spirits by expressing disgust at my experience, sharing stories of bad doctor’s visits, and affirming my instincts as a mother.
It was a pretty amazing experience, actually, to be on the receiving end of such a huge outpouring of support — mostly from people I didn’t even know!