29 Gifts, Day Four: Hugs by Mail

May 4th, 2011

A friend of mine had a miscarriage yesterday.  It wasn’t until I became a mother myself that I started to become aware of how many pregnancies end before they really even get going.  I know so many women who have lost babies over the past two years.  Too many.  It makes me sad, and I often struggle to find words to express my heartbreak at their experience.  Everything sounds trite and stupid.

I remember when one of my most beloved friends called to tell me her sad news last summer, I felt like I was completely worthless to her because I couldn’t even speak through my own tears.  All I could do was clutch my phone with white knuckles and snuffle out a few condolences.  It’s a hard thing about distance — in moments like that, what you want to do is put your arms around your friend and cry with her, but that only works when she’s nearby! 

So today I did my best to send a hug through the mail, in the form of a card.  Thinking of you, dear one.

2 responses to “29 Gifts, Day Four: Hugs by Mail”

  1. isa says:

    I'm so sorry to hear about that–I've been noticing them more, too and was surprised to realize how many people I know have gone through that. I'll be keeping your friend in my thoughts.

  2. Kate says:

    I think we're definitely at that age where our friends are going through it. Before you are of a baby-making age, it's just something so far removed from your experience. And then, suddenly, you look around and realize just how common it is.

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