29 Gifts, Day Four: Hugs by Mail
May 4th, 2011
A friend of mine had a miscarriage yesterday. It wasn’t until I became a mother myself that I started to become aware of how many pregnancies end before they really even get going. I know so many women who have lost babies over the past two years. Too many. It makes me sad, and I often struggle to find words to express my heartbreak at their experience. Everything sounds trite and stupid.
I remember when one of my most beloved friends called to tell me her sad news last summer, I felt like I was completely worthless to her because I couldn’t even speak through my own tears. All I could do was clutch my phone with white knuckles and snuffle out a few condolences. It’s a hard thing about distance — in moments like that, what you want to do is put your arms around your friend and cry with her, but that only works when she’s nearby!
So today I did my best to send a hug through the mail, in the form of a card. Thinking of you, dear one.