Bonding with My Beastie Boy
September 29th, 2012
Don’t let those big blue eyes fool you. My son is one tough toddler. He’s been going through a rough patch at daycare lately and has apparently become the class bully. He comes home daily with at least one (and as many as four) “incident reports” detailing how he has bitten his friends.
Although our daycare has been very understanding about the whole thing, it’s stressing me out. After doing some research, one idea that caught my eye was the suggestion that sometimes kids bite if they’re not getting enough attention at school and/or home.
While I think of myself as doing a good job of being present with my kids, it occurred to me that Buggie doesn’t get very much solo time with me. Miss Mouse has extra-curriculars (like swim lessons or choir practice) and I’m usually the one to take her to her activities. Plus, she stays up about a half hour later than her brother and the time after he’s in bed has always been special to her.
So, I’ve revamped our evening routine to allow me to spend time one-on-one with my son. Instead of bathing the kids together, I’m giving him a bath solo and starting the process earlier so that he and I can play together in his room for 15 minutes or so before we do bedtime stories and the goodnight routine.
After stories, I sit him on my lap, encourage him to look at me and repeat a simple (and somewhat corny) mantra: “Buggie is a good boy. Buggie is a nice boy. Mommy loves Buggie. Daddy loves Buggie. Miss Mouse loves Buggie. Riley Dog loves Buggie. Because Buggie is a good boy.”
Dorky, I know. But he loves it and has started reciting along with me. It’s too soon to tell if it’s going to help with the biting, but I’m positive that it’s a good thing for our relationship.