In which I sometimes Photoshop our lives and that’s okay
March 9th, 2013
There’s a blog post that was making the rounds on Facebook recently. A mommy blogger wrote a manifesto for being more “open” and “honest” about their lives. She suggested that Facebook status updates are a form of well-meaning lies wherein we all pretend that our kids are well-behaved, our days are sunny, and we spend all our free time as parents engaged in meaningful and environmentally-friendly craft projects with our children. We all know that the reality of our lives isn’t quite so gorgeous, but we often represent it that way online.
I get where she’s coming from, but as I’ve thought about it, I realized that choosing to focus on the positive parts of your day/week/life really isn’t such a horrible thing.
One of the reasons that I blog is it’s cheap therapy. It’s a chance to vent when I need to, sure, but most of the time I do try to put a positive spin on things. I see it as finding the silver lining. And that’s a good thing, to me.
Let’s take today for example. We had a big day. My folks and I took the kids to the library, then walked over to an indoor farmer’s market before hitting the new Wild West exhibit at the Community Arts Center. After naps, we all headed out into the sunshine where my dad assembled a new tricycle for Buggie while Miss Mouse and my mom engaged in stick sword fights. Then we all rolled around in the grass for a while.
It looked something like this, in my mind:
Were there moments of yuck? Of course. Miss Mouse threw a fit in the car. Buggie ran screaming through the library foyer. At least one child got hit with a stick wielded by the other. Buggie bonked me in the head with a rock. Neither child ate a great dinner.
But so what? Are those the important elements of my day? No, they aren’t. And if I thought they were, I’d probably be a lot less content with my life than I am. So bring on the rose-colored glasses. Life is beautiful.